Congratulations! Being pregnant again is especially challenging when the next older child is still very young. Having a toddler and being pregnant can be very hard work! You are of course tired because you’re pregnant but you cannot nap in the day when you need to with your toddler around. Unlike during your first pregnancy. The best thing for you and your family in this situation is to accept help. If you are lucky enough to have family or friends offering to look after the older one(s), take it! If your older one(s) is/are in school or nursery, do rest when you have some time to yourself.
When and how are you going to tell your older child or children?
Well, everyone is different. Some parents tell their children as soon as they know, others like to wait longer. There is no right or wrong. Sometimes it depends on the age of the older ones. If you have a toddler to explain the situation to, it might be a good idea to get a baby doll for them. They can then explore how to treat a baby and get used to the idea of having a baby around.
There are some things you can do to prepare yourself and your toddler or child for the new arrival:
- If you are thinking of moving older siblings to new rooms, it may be easier for them if you do it before the new baby arrives. They may be less jealous if new baby was not the most obvious reason. Maybe saying you are moving to a big-boy/girl-room now…
- New baby could give older siblings (especially if they are very young) a present to start off on a good note 🙂
- Think about who would be able to look after older siblings, while you are pregnant and need a rest, when you give birth and for the early days
- Only because you feel like you don’t give your second child as much attention as you did your first one, that does not mean that you are less attached to one or the other. It is really very normal!
- It is okay to sometimes use the TV or other electronic devices to keep the older child or children occupied while you are resting and once new baby is born 🙂
- Eat healthily, that will help with the tiredness while you have to limit your caffeine intake.
- Look after yourself and don’t forget to take folic acid from the time you start trying to conceive and until at least 12 weeks of pregnancy.
- Practice your breathing and relaxation techniques for labour and birth daily.
- Try to gently exercise / go for a walk regularly; this will keep your energy levels up!
You’ve got this!!